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5 Things I Miss While on Quarantine

by Bogie April 13, 2020

Today is day 29 of general community quarantine here in Cagayan de Oro City. But while I’m stuck at home for almost a month, I realized that I have been missing a lot of things lately. Here are top 5 of the things I miss while on quarantine.

1. Dining Outside

I miss dining outside especially after a tiring day at work. I miss eating restaurant cooked meals with friends and family. But while on quarantine I just focused on perfecting my skills on home cooking.

2. Going to Church

Doing church in these times of the COVID-19 pandemic has changed mostly for all churches. I miss the joy of gathering together as one church. Although we meet online every Sunday, but I miss the joy of worshiping together face to face.

3. Meeting Friends

On these quarantine days, I am still keeping in touch with my friends online. But I miss the real encounter, the unending chit chats and the road trips.

4. My Students

I miss my students cuteness. I miss their innocent looks and their amiable personality.

5. My Relatives

This month is supposed to be the time of the year where I spend time to bond with my relatives. But because of the quarantine, I guess the get together will have to be cancelled.

There are days that I find staying at home a bit challenging. Despite that, I am thankful for the opportunity to be at home with my family. Added to that, a lot of people around the world are fighting the battle against COVID-19 and staying at home the is least that I could do to help “flatten the curve” of this pandemic. Praying that this will be over soon.

*Day 13 post for the 30 Day Blog Challenge done!

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What is Your Love Language?

by Bogie April 11, 2020

The Five Love Languages are a concept developed by marriage counselor Gary Chapman. It is based on his anecdotal research from thirty years of doing marriage counseling.

The five love languages are:

1. Words of Affirmation

Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Furthermore, hearing the words “I love you,” are important. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

2. Acts of Service

Whatever you do for someone can be an expression of love? Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Finding ways to serve speaks volumes to the recipient of these acts.

3. Receiving Gifts

Don’t mistake this love language for materialism. This means, the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday gestures.

4. Quality Time

In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Quality Time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities.

5. Physical Touch

This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Moreover, hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love.

Why is it important?

Knowing your love language will enable you to connect with your loved one with intimacy and fulfillment. Added to that, it will give you the opportunity to effectively communicate your emotional needs as well as meeting the emotional needs of your partner and your children.

My Love Language

My love language is WORDS OF AFFIRMATION. This means, unsolicited compliments mean the world to me. I find this true for myself because I always believe that words have power. Kind, encouraging, positive words are truly life-changing.

“Kind words are like honey, sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.” – Proverbs 16:24

Know Your Love Language

So what is your love language? Take the 5 Love Languages Profile. I suggest you take it with your partner. Answer it separately and then come together and discuss your test results. This will help you learn how to meet the emotional need of your partner by knowing her love language. Last night, I have learned that my husband’s love language is ACTS OF SERVICE and since then I have decided to do anything for him and offer help in case he needs it.

If you don’t have a partner, do not worry. You can take the 5 Love Languages Profile for Singles. There’s even for teens and children too.

Day 11 of the 30 Day-Blogging Challenge done!

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Writing a Letter to those Who Have Hurt You

by Bogie April 10, 2020

Today’s writing prompt for the 30-Day Blogging Challenge is all about “Writing a letter to those who have hurt You”. Thinking about what to write, I was reminded of our classroom activity back when I was in College. Our teacher asked us to write a letter to someone who have hurt us. The purpose of the activity was to release pain, anger and all the emotional baggage we have.

It was so timely as I came in class with a heavy heart. I got scolded by my boss (I was a working student back then in college). I find it very painful because I didn’t do anything wrong yet my actions were misinterpreted. Inside the classroom, I was writing my letter and at the same time my tears were flowing. My teacher was surprised and asked me if I can share my letter in class. While I was reading my letter almost all of my classmates got teary eyed. I can’t anymore remember what I wrote, but that writing activity helped me release the pain I had at that time.

Benefits of Writing Letters

Writing a letter to those who have hurt you can change lives. It can be therapeutic to the one writing, rather than the one receiving it. Moreover, it can heal the pain that is living deep inside your heart. If someone hurts you in the past, write a letter so you can express compassion. Not only that, write a letter so you can ask or grant forgiveness or just simply express gratitude.

My Letter of Gratitude to the Person who Hurt Me

Dear XXX,

I thank you for hurting me. Forgive me if I was angry at you at that time. But today, I thank God for the opportunity to grow during that pain. Thank you for allowing me to learn and for helping me achieve my dreams.

I am happy seeing you now as you grow in your love for your family and most of all to God.

May the Lord bless you and keep you. May the Lord smile on you and be gracious to you. May the Lord show you His favor and give you His peace.

Love,

Bogie

Find a Way to Heal

Find a way to heal by starting to write letters to those who have hurt you. You may not have the courage to send it to the recipient for now, but what is important is for you to be able to release your painful emotions. After writing one, take a few days off, read your letters again and decide whether you will send it or not.

Start writing your letter now!

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